multicultural

school this semester has certainly been interesting as well as been enlightening. i particularly love my multicultural class. i learned so much about my self and others. i thought i would post a little what i have learned:

• Unless truth changes you, it’s just information.

• We teach what we are, not what we know.

• I speak through the history of my experience, and you understand through the history of your experience.

• Sure way to failure is to please all. – Bill Cosby

• God won’t need to ask what we believe.

• Fear blocks the reception of perfect love.

• Never fear. Trust.

• Be approachable in order to create trust.

• Try studying “ego”

• If your story matches my story, you give me status.

• Reality= product of our experience.

• “Judge Up “ ~ Give everyone you meet an A even if they haven’t reached their potential

• Emotion = information. You can change your feelings.

• Tolerance = not agreement, engagement

• Salt of the earth . . . Can’t salt salt!

• If you live in fear, you can’t build a high enough wall. Love needs no wall. You have angels. Pragmatics = not fear.

• When God wants to change you, He changes your questions - - gives you experiences only He has the answer for.

• Illiterate = those who can’t learn, unlearn, and relearn, not those who can’t read or write. – Alvin Toefler

• Social vs. Unique Self: stand in your truth.

• Sin is the result of unmet needs – Elder Hales

• Racism = discrimination, group superiority

• Discrimination = deny legitimate rights

• Person with experience is never at mercy with the one with an argument

• Never free to love unconditionally what you are trying to change. – Rabbi Naomi Levi

• Pattern of Correcting (not punishing) – D&C 95:1
• Love, Chasten, Way out, Love you

• Correct means to make pure again, change directions

• Leadership doesn’t equal position. It equals action, doesn’t wait for a calling.

• Don’t know your power until you see how far you’re going to go.

• Common + Unity = Community; doesn’t just happen.

• Don’t know what you don’t know so you shouldn’t punish people for what they don’t know.

• Teach norms and honor the individual

• Challenge – create community, not celebrate community

• Emotional Dishonesty = can’t love yourself cause you don’t know what self to love.

• Dysfunctional to feel important or needed to save (bridge example)

• Don’t punish by withholding love

• Feel it and release it

• Lowest state = when we’re in shame

• Highest state = gratitude

• Perspective = about the things you know, comes from experience, happens in context

• 1. Stay in the heart of grace

Slow to take offense

Benefit of the doubt

Compassion

Flush emotional toilet bowl

• 2. Never assume

Your experience is not their experience

Our assumptions of others reveal us

• 3. Get into their world

“What” questions (what does _____ mean to you? Etc.)

Go in with your shoes off (it’s sacred ground)

Don’t expect to influence without first being willing to be influenced

• 4. Be what they need to be

• 5. Give them what they need to succeed

• Things are only symbolic

• Relationship’s key word = relate

• Can’t relate through your assumptions

• Relate to their definition

• In looking at what we know, we might miss what’s on the other side.

• Don’t be arrogant in your knowledge

• Opposition in not to all things

• Changes give God a chance to show up in a bigger way

• You can hold people down by the way you treat them

• Empathetic listening (to hear pain), a form of validating the right to hurt

• We don’t want people to come in and fix our story

• You don’t know what pains people are carrying around

• People in pain want to know someone cares.

• Boyd K. Packer - Any virtue taken to extreme loses its virtue

• Ideas have consequences

• If you want a blessing, go be a blessing

• Multiculturalism is a way of viewing relating and a way of thinking and not just content about various ethnic, racial, and cultural groups.

• Avoid talking someone out of this or her experience.

• Equal doesn’t mean fair

• Even the best team has to call time-out once in a while.

• Honor people the way they show up ~ no fixing.

• Show up in a way that honors other people

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